The Pharisees of my childhood continue their coming-out parade:
Josh Harris, author of the bestselling 1997 book I Kissed Dating Goodbye, announced on Instagram Friday that he had kissed Christianity goodbye, as well. He is also divorcing his wife. In recent years, Harris has rightly repented of his extraordinarily stringent and slightly heretical teachings in the evangelical purity movement, but he seems to have thrown the baby out with the bathwater. Ironically, the evangelical ex-pastor went from preaching one worldly dogma dressed up in Christian garb to fully embracing another worldly dogma clearly opposed to Christianity.
Last week, Harris announced that he and his wife of 21 years would be separating. This is significant in part because Harris made himself the model of the promises of a pure Christian life in his book. He essentially promised young Christians that if they keep themselves pure for marriage — he even suggested refraining from kissing until the wedding day — they will find the perfect spouse, enjoy the frequent satisfaction of desire, and the blessings of children.
That didn’t seem to work out for him, and in his Instagram post, Harris wrote, “I wish you could see all the messages people sent me after the announcement of my divorce. They are expressions of love though they are saddened or even strongly disapprove of the decision.”
Yet the former evangelical Christian made an even bigger announcement in the same post:
“I have undergone a massive shift in regard to my faith in Jesus. The popular phrase for this is ‘deconstruction,’ the biblical phrase is ‘falling away.’ By all the measurements that I have for defining a Christian, I am not a Christian. Many people tell me that there is a different way to practice faith and I want to remain open to this, but I’m not there now,” Harris wrote.
As Katelyn Beaty noted at Religion News Service, Harris’s book and others like them were part of a “sexual prosperity gospel.” Prosperity gospel huxters preach that if you have faith in God and pray, then God will reward you in this life with health, wealth, and prosperity. This dangerous message also has a tragic corollary — if you get sick and don’t recover or if you become poor, that means your faith was lacking.
Similarly, the sexual prosperity gospel preaches that if Christians hold themselves back for marriage, they will be rewarded with a perfect marriage full of bountiful intercourse. Now, it is true that there are natural benefits to saving yourself for marriage — but that’s not the promise of the gospel. And it certainly does not follow that the more you deny yourself in terms of kissing or hugging while dating (or “courting”), the more passion and intercourse you will enjoy during marriage. God promises no such trade-off, and it is an unrealistic expectation.
Worse, it elevates marriage and intercourse above God’s true promises. Marriage itself is but a shadow of heavenly intimacy with God. As C.S. Lewis wrote in his masterful essay The Weight of Glory, “It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
Josh Harris, it seems, is still far too easily pleased. In his statement about “falling away” from Christianity, he added an apology “to the LGBTQ+ community.”
Excerpts taken from https://pjmedia.com/faith/josh-harris-kisses-christianity-goodbye/
While the writer of this article doesn’t appear to value purity as much as he ought, his points about the inherent flaws in the popular evangelical purity/family movement are correct – even understated. That movement pushes a form of godliness, but lacks the power thereof, though the power of God is given lip-service. And more often than not, the organizations therein are easily infiltrated by well-spoken perverts who manipulate naive people to get close to their families. Take the premise of Wit’s End from the popular kid’s program Advertures In Odyssey, for example.
Perhaps I have seen too much of what runs the world; but it still doesn’t take a disturbed mind to see what is hiding in plain sight there. It’s the appetites of demons coursing through the veins of earthly rulers and “spiritual leaders”, it’s the blood of the innocent that oils the gears of the Mystery Babylon machine. There is an apocalypse (unveiling) of these things in our day; and men will have to choose more clearly and viscerally than ever what master they will serve.
I’m glad I never wasted my time with Harris’s book despite it’s being pushed upon me at a young age. It would not only have not helped – it would have actually made things a whole lot worse. Even in my more foolish years, I could somehow never trust these “christian” writers and figures that were so heavily marketed as having “traditional family values”; they always seemed quite “off” to me, even if I occasionally derived value from bits and peices of their material (very little, now that I consider it).
To say that I am dubious of any so-called “ministry” that focuses primarily upon the subject(s) of money and/or sex would be an understatement. The fact that this is even controversial to say among christians is a testament to how far they have fallen. When the family falls apart, don’t turn to a “ministry”: they don’t have any financial stakes in your spiritual success – you are merely an investment, and that’s just the bottom line. Turn instead to God, and if you can, seek the support of real people who are proven to be trustworthy
The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. Eventually, all that remains are grifters and whores.
Such is the church of man.
Like moths to a lamp,
Like flies to a pile of dung.
Let it fall, and good riddance to it.
Little children, keep yourselves from idols. Amen.
1 John 5:21